Getting emails like the one I got yesterday frustrates the heck out of me! I simply had to put together these facts about ADHD & Anxiety Coaching.
Let me back up. Sometimes I get ahead of myself. If you’ve got ADD / ADHD, then I suspect you understand how that happens.
Yesterday I got an email from a woman named Beth. She’d just discovered my website. Beth wrote, “You mean ADHD Coaching is a real thing? There are actually people who can help me with my ADHD?
How does it work? I’m so tired of struggling!”
Yes, Beth. There’s a growing profession called ADHD Coaching & Anxiety Coaching.
The fact is, though, that lots of people who could use ADHD/Anxiety coaching have never heard of this type of coaching. That’s why I’m dedicating my day to writing this quick guide about ADHD
& Anxiety coaching. I’m determined to share the message about how to live easier with ADHD!
For the record when I talk about ADHD I mean all types of ADD or ADHD. Inattentive, Hyperactive, Combined, yada, yada, yada.
Facts About ADHD Coaching
1. What is an ADHD/Anxiety Coach?
An ADHD and Anxiety Coach are professionally trained to help humans live easier with ADHD and Anxiety. Think of it as a mentor. Your coach won’t do the work for you. Your
coach teaches you coping skills, gives you insight, helps solve problems. They act as a sounding board to untangle living with ADHD or Anxiety. The best ADHD and Anxiety coaches have a lot of
training and experience in attention deficit. Some even have it. There are ADHD coaches for all types of people — all ages, sexes, professions, life situations, and types of ADHD. People
officially diagnosed or not. People on medication or not.
2. Why Would I Work With A Coach?
Are you tired of banging your head against that wall of your ADHD? Are you tired of living your life full of anxiety and frustration? That’s why you work with a coach. Running as fast as
you can and not getting anywhere sucks. (Forgive me for mixing metaphors.) Being overwhelmed, late, disorganized, scattered? ADHD or Anxiety doesn’t have to be a roadblock. Life can be easier, as
a matter of fact. ADHD or Anxiety coaching helps you discover detours around your ADHD/Anxiety roadblocks so you can stop surviving and start thriving.
3. How Can ADHD/Anxiety Coaching Help?
Here are some of the ADHD/Anxiety coping skills people work on with their coach:
Organizing and stuff at work and at home
Focusing on work priorities and productivity
Being held accountable for stuff they want to accomplish
Clearing all kinds of clutter – paper, digital, and stuff
Using time wisely and getting things done
Planning and finishing projects – what a concept
Finishing a gigantic project
Building simpler, smarter habits and routines
Getting the important things done
Tons of time management skills – using a calendar, planner, task list, reminders, apps, etc.
Understanding what’s ADHD and what isn’t
Setting and reach goals
Getting places on time
Studying and homework skills
Being a more patient and consistent parent
Being a more supportive spouse or partner
Building better diet, sleep and exercise habits
Improving relationship and communication skills
Knowing what to say to other people about your ADHD
Identifying Anxiety triggers
Recognize the symptoms of anxiety
Acknowledge the cause of anxiety and manage the symptoms
Effectively confront and control your anxiety
Take ideal control of situations in life
Discover the core fear of anxiety
4. How Often Would I Meet With My Coach?
ADHD/Anxiety Coaching is a close, ongoing partnership. Coaches work in different ways. In a typical private coaching relationship, coaches meet with their clients three or four times
each month. Most ADHD/Anxiety coaches provide support and accountability between sessions by e-mail, text, or phone. Clients often set mini-goals in the coaching session and check in with the
coach between sessions.
Though each coach works a bit differently, here’s an example of what I do. My private clients get four coaching calls a month. Plus, lots of text or email check-ins between calls. When they get
really strong and consistent on the ADHD coping skills we’re working on, we reduce our sessions to a once a month check-in. My Bella Bootcamp group clients get two coaching calls a
week. They get additional call support through a secret Facebook group.
ADHD/Anxiety coaches have different ways they like to work. The fact is you need to find a coach who can help you get the results you’re seeking.
5. Do I Meet With My ADHD or Anxiety Coach In Person?
This is one of my favorite facts about ADHD and Anxiety coaching. Sure, some coaches meet face to face with their clients. BUT most work by phone or Skype. It depends on the coach and how they
like to work.
For example, though I am an ADHD and Anxiety Coach in Michigan, I work with clients from all over the world. How cool is that! I’ve coached some clients for years, and I’ve never met
them face to face. It’s remarkable.
I know it sounds odd, but virtual coaching works particularly well with ADHD or Anxiety. Most people find virtual coaching less distracting than meeting face to face. Plus, it makes it
easier to pick your coach since the coach doesn’t have to live in your area. Also, you don’t have to get dressed up or leave the office or home to meet with your coach. Or, get distracted running
errands after driving to see your coach. Telephone and Zoom (a video conference platform) make coaching easy peasy!
6. How Much Does ADHD and Anxiety Coaching Cost?
Fees vary depending on the coach and if it’s private or group ADHD/Anxiety coaching. Experienced coaches, for instance, charge more for private coaching than new coaches. Coaches in training
typically charge very little since they’re trying to get experience. Group ADHD coaching is less expensive than private ADHD/Anxiety coaching. I understand affordability is a big problem when it
comes to coaching.
7. Does Medical Insurance Cover ADHD or Anxiety Coaching?
It sucks but, in the USA, ADHD/Anxiety coaching is not covered by health insurance. I have had clients pay from their medical Flexible Spending Accounts. Canadian clients have paid me using
medical insurance. Some of my business clients deduct my fees from their income tax as a training expense. In other words, know your system and your options.
8. How Does ADHD and Anxiety Coaching Fit With My Other Treatments?
ADHD and Anxiety coaching blends nicely with the treatment you get from your doctor or therapist. You’ll talk to your coach often so he or she will have a clear idea of how well you’re ADHD or
Anxiety symptoms are managed. Your coach can help you get clear on what to tell your doctor or therapist. ADHD and Anxiety coaches can’t legally advise you on medication but they can help you see
when your medication isn’t controlling your symptoms.
9. Is ADHD and Anxiety Coaching Different from Therapy?
ADHD and Anxiety Coaching is not psychotherapy. Here’s how I look at it: coaching focuses on building skills and taking action to create the life you want to have. Therapy tends to focus on your
past and emotional healing. Both are important for living easier with ADHD or Anxiety. Lots of folks work with both a coach and a therapist. Before hiring a coach it’s best to get a handle
on your emotional stuff so you CAN take action. Fact is, many people work with an ADHD or Anxiety coach and a therapist at the same time.
10. What’s The Difference Between Group and Private ADHD Coaching?
With group coaching, a coach works with multiple people at one time. Private coaching is a one-to-one relationship. Groups provide recordings and more support materials. Clients find it
healing to join a community working on the same challenges and listening to me coach other people. Plus, I can charge LOTS less for group coaching, so more people can afford it. It’s a fact:
Group ADHD coaching lights me up!
11. How Do I Find An ADHD or an Anxiety Coach?
Do an Internet search for ADHD coaches. Look at websites and read blogs. Subscribe to newsletters. See what the coach has written and if it resonates with you. The various ADHD organization
websites are also good resources. The ADHD Coaches Organization has a Find-a-Coach feature. You
can also check the general ADHD organizations such as CHADD and ADDA. Take
advantage of the free coaching sessions or interviews most ADHD coaches offer. You and your coach need a good personality click. Also, make sure the coach has the training and background to help
your situation and offers services that fit your budget. It’s a good idea to talk to a couple of coaches before you pick.
12. Do I Have To Have An Official ADHD or Anxiety Diagnosis to Work With a Coach?
No. Often clients come to me to help navigate getting an ADHD or an GED (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) diagnosis. Some humans aren’t interested in getting a diagnosis. As long as someone is
willing and able to make changes, they can work with an ADHD or Anxiety coach. Getting an ADHD or Anxiety diagnosis is a good idea, though. So you know what’s really going on and if
it’s ADHD or Anxiety or something else. In addition, I offer ADHD and Anxiety screening.
13. How Are ADHD and Anxiety Coaches Trained?
There are a few different ADHD and Anxiety coach training programs. Not all ADHD coaching training programs are created equal. The one I took lasted two years and was very detailed. In my
opinion, a weekend coaching training program doesn’t cut it. You need your coach to have a deep and broad knowledge of working with ADHD. You also need a coach who specializes in ADHD / ADD. The
last thing you need is a coach who tells you to just try harder, right?
14. Does My ADHD or Anxiety Coach Need a Certification?
There are different certifications. Each training program and certifying body promotes their own gig. I wouldn’t get hung up on the specific certification. Certification does mean the coach has
experience and training. Plus, coaches have to get continuing education to maintain the certification. There are some long-time ADHD coaches who aren’t certified. What’s really important is that
your coach understands ADHD and has a track record of transforming ADHD lives.
15. Is ADHD and Anxiety Coaching Always Successful?
This is my least favorite ADHD coaching fact. No, it’s not. Working with an ADHD or an Anxiety coach isn’t easy. Coaches don’t have magic wands. Sometimes the coach and client aren’t a good fit.
Sometimes the client runs out of money. Or, commitment flags when coaching stops being the next shiny thing. Sometimes if ADHD coaching isn’t successful; we uncover things like
depression that need to be stabilized. If coaching isn’t working, talk to your coach about it.
16. How Does An ADHD and Anxiety Coach Measure Client Success?
This depends from coach to coach, so I can speak only for myself. I find there are different levels of success. Some people learn new ADHD and Anxiety coping skills and habits and improve their
lives for the better. Their lives get easier. That’s cool. What am I really after? When a client does what I call “totally rewrites their image of themselves”. So, they start thinking of
themselves as an organized person, or a person who is always on time. Or, someone who is aware and productive. Who works to their strengths and reaches their goals. When their ADHD or Anxiety no
longer frames who they are but becomes their superpower. That’s what gives me goosebumps. That’s what I live for.